4 Tips to Increase Courtesy in the Workplace

by Oct 14, 2015

Working in this fast-paced era of technology makes interacting with colleagues and other people instantaneous. We don’t really think about what and how we are going to respond to text messages, emails and social media posts. As a result, civility is being erased from the picture.

The immediacy of instant messaging, email, Skype and others allows everyone to act and respond offensively without a second thought. When you’re looking at a computer or phone screen it’s easy to forget the person at the other end has feelings.  This inability to have empathy for your phone screen can give rise to incivility and even workplace bullying.

 

Courtesy in the Workplace

To restore civility, here are 4 ways to interact in your workplace courteously:

1) Don’t rush when writing an email or text message.

Take time to be courteous as you write to a fellow worker.  Insert a thoughtful and cordial salutation in your emails. It will only take a second or two to be courteous.

2) Be polite.  

There’s nothing wrong with being considerate to your co-workers’ feelings.  They might have done something wrong and in need of correction, but you can still be polite in doing so.  It is also one way of showing professionalism.

3) Always remember that constructive criticism is not constructive unless you stop giving criticism.

Constructive criticism is really about helping someone get better. So collaborate and communicate when giving feedback, and that will push you both to excellence. Though it is easier to criticize than to execute, don’t forget the efforts the employees have put into their work.  Even if some attempts at a project are not successful, the time and energy put into the project should never go unnoticed.

4) Practice being courteous.

According to an American author and playwright Jean Kerr, “Man is the only animal that learns by being hypocritical. He pretends to be polite and then, eventually, he becomes polite.”

The full article of Restoring Civility in the workplace is at Deseret News.

 

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About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500’s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought-leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author and blogger, and has 50+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning. Catherine’s award-winning book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, was hailed by international leadership-guru, Ken Blanchard, as, “the most comprehensive and valuable handbook on the topic.” Her latest book is Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley),

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