Finding Civility in a Sea of Bullying

by Jan 10, 2017

At an organization whose mission was to help people with disabilities thrive in the community, the workplace bullying had become rampant. The former CEO had apparently been a real bully, and his leadership had dripped downward into the organization. Insidiously, a culture of bullying and negativity crept into every corner of the organization.

The bullying had gotten so bad that it affected the organization drastically. In fact, during an annual audit by the industry’s accrediting body, the negative culture came to light. Sadly, the organization failed the audit and was given two years to turn things around in a major way. If they didn’t their accreditation would be stripped. Staff, providers of services, and the families they served were devastated. Morale was low and union activity began to fester.

As a result, the board of directors asked the CEO to step down, and they replaced him with a new CEO. The new CEO’s mission was to ensure the follow-up audit would be passed, and that the organization would be restored to its original glory. Although new to the organization, this CEO wasn’t new to leading, and she quickly decided the organization needed a culture overhaul if she were going to succeed.

In partnership with Civility Partners, the CEO devised a five-step plan:
1. Train the leaders, managers, and supervisors in driving culture change
2. Create a culture committee made up of people from all levels of the organization
3. Create a social vision that would drive the new culture
4. Update the core values so that they resonated with the employees
5. Develop a strategic plan around the new values

As the plan took shape and began to move forward many were uneasy with the changes. Although they wanted a more positive workplace, change is scary for everyone. And when you’re a bully, positive change can be really scary because it means you’ll have to learn new ways of behaving.In the end, the organization passed their follow-up audit with flying colors, the union activity ceased, and this workplace became, once again, a positive place to be.

In the end, the organization passed their follow-up audit with flying colors, the union activity ceased, and this workplace became, once again, a positive place to be.

Do you know how much money chronically bad behavior costs your company? Spoiler alert – it’s a LOT higher than you want it to be. Download our data and worksheet to see how it’s costing your organization and what you can do to fix it.

 

Catherine

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author, and blogger and has 60+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning.  Her fourth book, Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley), is available in all major bookstores and where audiobooks are sold.

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