Celebrate the Season Without Dividing Your Team: Inclusive Holiday Tips

by Dec 4, 2024

The holiday season may be billed as the most wonderful time of the year, but it’s often a minefield of conflicts waiting to happen. Holidays are deeply personal, sparking joy and nostalgia for some while leaving others feeling excluded or stressed.

With 44% of Millennials and nearly 50% of Gen Z employees identifying as part of underrepresented groups—and these two generations now making up over 50% of the workforce – inclusive holiday celebrations are no longer optional. The pressure to create events that unite instead of divide is real and overwhelming.

You often find yourself balancing on a tightrope as you’re honoring diverse traditions, addressing complaints about “mandatory fun,” and diffusing tensions at holiday gatherings. As workplaces become more diverse, your celebrations should reflect that diversity.

The solution lies in inclusivity. Create spaces where everyone feels seen, respected, and valued. Here’s how to make it happen:

 

Inclusive Holiday Tips

Start with a Pulse Check

Before planning anything, gauge your team’s preferences. Use anonymous surveys to ask employees how they’d like to celebrate, what traditions they’d like to share, and if they’re comfortable participating. This step ensures your decisions are grounded in their voices—not assumptions.

 

Focus on Connection, Not Tradition

Instead of defaulting to traditional holiday parties, consider activities that emphasize togetherness over specific customs. Host a potluck where employees share dishes significant to them, allowing everyone to celebrate their unique traditions while learning about others. Alternatively, organize a volunteer day that aligns with your core values, such as giving back to the community. Wellness-focused events, like gratitude workshops or stress-relief sessions, are also great ways to build camaraderie.

 

Be Mindful of Language and Symbols

Small details matter. Swap “Christmas Party” for “Holiday Gathering” or “Year-End Celebration.” Avoid overt religious symbols unless they represent a diversity of traditions. Even seemingly harmless choices, like decorations or playlists, can unintentionally signal exclusion. Opt for neutral themes that celebrate the season’s spirit of togetherness. 

Check out this holiday playlist we created a few years ago! (Fun fact: this is the most visited blog page on our website!) 

 

Create Space for Opt-Outs

Participation should never feel mandatory. Gift exchanges, themed attire, or event attendance should always be optional. Employees need the freedom to decline without fear of judgment or exclusion. Offering flexibility ensures everyone feels comfortable and respected.

 

Lead by Example

Leadership sets the tone—good or bad. According to Finance Buzz, 49% of employees have seen a manager drink too much at a holiday party, and 31% have witnessed inappropriate behavior from leadership. These actions can destroy trust and inclusivity in an instant. Encourage leaders to model professionalism, respect, and empathy. When leadership embodies these values, it sends a powerful message: everyone belongs here.

 

Let’s Make It Work for You

Navigating the nuances of holiday inclusivity may feel overwhelming, but it’s an opportunity to strengthen your team’s connection and showcase your organization’s commitment to respect and diversity. We’ve guided countless HR professionals through these challenges, not just during the holidays, but year-round.

Our training programs are designed to equip your team with the tools and strategies needed to build a truly inclusive workplace culture. From inclusive communication workshops to manager cohort programs, we provide practical solutions that create lasting impact.

Don’t let the holidays become a source of division or stress. Let’s work together to turn this season into an opportunity to strengthen your culture and show your team what true inclusivity looks like.

Contact us today to learn how our training programs can help you create a workplace everyone wants to be part of!

When it comes to DEI, language matters…and it’s constantly evolving. Are you using the right terminology in your organization? Download our DEI Terminology Cheat Sheet and see how you stack up.

 

Catherine

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500’s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought-leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author and blogger, and has 50+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning. Catherine’s award-winning book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, was hailed by international leadership-guru, Ken Blanchard, as, “the most comprehensive and valuable handbook on the topic.” Her latest book is Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley).

 

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