Fostering Civil Conversations at Work

by Jan 22, 2025

SHRM’s Civility Index Research shows that U.S. workers collectively experience 223 million acts of incivility per day and U.S. organizations collectively lose about $2 billion per day in reduced productivity and absenteeism because of it. 

You’ve probably seen it firsthand: disagreements turn personal, tempers flare, and teams fracture. 

When a tense moment happens, you’re often brought in as the referee. You’re handed complaints that aren’t fully formed—“They’re difficult to work with!”, and you’re expected to step in and fix it. 

But civil conversations can’t be mandated like policies, and conflict doesn’t resolve itself with a single meeting. It requires culture change, not a quick intervention. And when left unchecked, even minor disagreements can escalate into workplace bullying, discrimination claims, or costly turnover.

It’s exhausting being both the mediator and the one championing culture initiatives, all while struggling to get leadership to see the problem and the solution.

 

Building a Culture of Civil Conversations at Work

Fostering civil conversations isn’t about stopping conflict; it’s about managing it productively. It’s about creating an environment where employees can disagree respectfully, collaborate effectively, and move forward together.

We specialize in helping organizations address the unspoken challenges of workplace culture and conflict. Together, we can equip employees with the tools they need to communicate effectively and respectfully.

And what does fostering civil conversations look like?

 

Training employees to disagree productively.

People need guidance on how to voice opinions without shutting others down. We deliver training programs that teach essential skills for navigating conflict with clarity and respect.

 

Teaching managers to model civility.

Leaders set the tone. We help managers learn how to guide tough conversations and de-escalate tension before it spirals.

 

Establishing norms for communication.

Make civility a shared expectation. We partner with HR and leadership to create communication guidelines that empower employees to resolve issues constructively.

 

You are doing everything in your power to keep culture intact, but you shouldn’t have to do it alone. When you foster a culture of civil conversations, you’re not just solving today’s conflict; you’re preventing tomorrow’s.

Explore these conversation cards to practice with your team: How would you address bad behavior at work? Use these tools to approach tough situations with civility and clarity.

Your employees deserve better, and so do you. Let’s make civil conversations the norm in your organization. Just respond to this email to set up a call with one of our team members.

Also, Navigating a Toxic Workplace For Dummies, hits shelves on June 26, 2025—and it’s available for pre-order now!

Civility is the platform for organizational success—it is absolutely necessary for an organization to reach its goals. Download our Ebook on Seeking Civility to learn more on how to create a workplace free of bullying and abusive conduct.

 

Catherine

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author, and blogger and has 60+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning.  Her fourth book, Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley), is available in all major bookstores and where audiobooks are sold.

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