What do I do if my boss is a bully?

by Sep 25, 2015

Not all employees will have the pleasure of dealing with a fair and inspiring boss.  Sometimes, workers will have the bad luck of having to deal with a mean manager or supervisor.  If you think you have a really bad one, don’t fret, you’re not alone.  According to research, up to 65 million Americans experienced being bullied at the workplace at some point in their professional life.

For brave ones, the first thing that comes to mind when subjected to workplace bullying would be to confront the bully boss.  For other victims, they would rather avoid confrontations and hope for less negative dealings with the mean manager.  However, licensed therapist, coach and behavior change expert Melody Wilding said that this approach will only result to victims further hurting themselves.  Wilding cautioned that taking your workplace bullying problems home and venting about it may feel good, but over time, the negative feelings will eventually impact a person’s mental and emotional health.  It can also sometimes lead to depression and anxiety.

So instead of griping about it to a friend or a partner, the best thing to do is to make a plan and prepare.  Being able to do so will help a bullying victim manage a difficult situation better. Trying to keep your cool, being less emotional and taking the professional high road will help when that dreaded confrontation or discussion happens.  Also, remember to keep track of the instances when the bullying happened.  This will be critical when you reach the point wherein you’ll need to forward the concern to human resources.

To learn more about dealing with a mean boss, click here.

Incivility, bullying, and harassment occur because the culture allows them to. Before starting inclusivity initiatives, you’ve got to stop bad behavior. Take this assessment to determine if your workplace fosters a positive culture.

 

Catherine

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author, and blogger and has 60+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning. Her fourth book, Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley), is available in all major bookstores and where audiobooks are sold.

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