Using DISC to Resolve Conflict

by Feb 13, 2020

Have you ever had a conflict with a coworker that turned into an all out battle royale, only to realize it was caused by a small miscommunication? 

Conflict is natural and bound to occur in every organization. And, sometimes conflict can even lead to some pretty amazing ideas!

But, we all know that there is such a thing as unhealthy conflict – especially if you’re in HR. 

Interestingly, conflict often boils down to a difference in communication styles.

For example, let’s say Doris’ communication is short and to the point, and her emails are never longer than a few sentences.  Her coworker, Ian, always exchanges pleasantries before meetings and adds a lot of information when he’s writing emails, making them much longer. 

If Ian sends a too-long email to Doris, she might become frustrated, think that reading the entire email is a waste of her time, and not respond. On the other hand, if Doris sends Ian an email that says, “Need to meet right now,” Ian may be thrown off, try to interpret her mood, or even avoid her. 

Over time, these interactions can build up and create unnecessary animosity between coworkers, not to mention hinder their ability to do their jobs well. Then, when the volcano erupts, HR is left to pick up the pieces. 

Enter DISC, HR’s best friend when it comes to avoiding miscommunication and maintaining a civil workplace. 

The DISC assessment identifies communication tendencies based on preferences for people or tasks, and pace of work. Knowing your own preferences and the preferences of your teammates can increase collaboration as you learn what people (and you) need from others when communicating. 

Now, when Ian is crafting his emails to Doris, he can remove some of the “extra stuff,” knowing she prefers direct communication. When Doris is crafting an email to Ian, she may add in a little “Good Morning,” or add some context on what she needs. This would ease Ian’s uncertainty around short messages. 

If you’re interested in learning more about DISC, we are hosting a DISC webinar on March 19th, 2020!

We’re going to talk about resolving conflict using some DISC tools, and even talk about employee engagement and personal leadership. 

Unhealthy conflict is poison to your organization.

It’s important to provide employees with useful tools for maneuvering the tricky intricacies of interpersonal communication – starting with the tool of awareness. 

Register here to claim your spot. 

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP is President of consulting and training firm, Civility Partners, and has been successfully providing programs in workplace bullying and building positive workplaces since 2007. Her clients include Fortune 500’s, the military, several universities and hospitals, government agencies, small businesses and nonprofits. She has published in a variety of trade magazines and has appeared several times on NPR, FOX, NBC, and ABC as an expert, as well as in USA Today, Inc Magazine, Huffington Post, Entrepreneur Magazine, and more. Catherine is Past-President of the Association for Talent Development (ATD), San Diego Chapter and teaches at National University. In his book foreword, Ken Blanchard called her book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, “the most comprehensive and valuable handbook on the topic.” She recently released a second book entitled, SEEKING CIVILITY: How Leaders, Managers and HR Can Create a Workplace Free of Bullying.

Employees Afraid to Discuss Work Toxicity?

I just returned from the Ohio Safety Conference (OSC), where I spoke about Why Safety Fails Without Culture & Behavior. In addition to my session, we hosted a booth where we handed out some swag, including copies of my book, Navigating a Toxic Workplace For...

Should HR Come as a Pair? Compliance vs. Strategic HR

Have you ever noticed how small most HR teams are in comparison to everything they’re expected to do? In many organizations, HR makes up only about 2% of the workforce. Yet they’re responsible for the business’ most valuable asset - PEOPLE. That means culture and...

AI Prompts for Busy HR and Leaders Building Civil Cultures

You don’t struggle creating and managing a positive culture because you don’t care about it. You struggle because you don’t have the time. Between performance issues, leadership coaching, hiring, compliance, and “one more urgent fire,” culture work often gets pushed...

An Important Survey Question You’re Not Asking

Employee Appreciation Day is March 6th here in the United States, and with it often come social events, catered lunches, swag bags, and gift cards. It’s kind of annoying, if you ask me.  Not because you shouldn’t appreciate your people, but because leaders are fairly...

Hear From the Experts: What Really Happens in Upstander Training

We can tell you that our Upstander Training Toolkit really works in our emails. But the most powerful proof comes from our expert facilitators who deliver this very same training to our own clients. Dr. Toni Herndon and Dr. Bob Berk have facilitated this program to...

Why Organizations Create Toxic Rockstars (And How to Stop Them)

Research shows that more than 70% of employees report experiencing incivility or disrespectful behavior at work, and over half say these behaviors reduce their productivity and morale. Meanwhile, almost every HR or people leader has heard some version of these...

7 Questions to Answer Before Launching a Training Program

Organizations spend a staggering amount on training, yet the results often fall short.  In the United States alone, organizations invested $102.8 billion in training in 2025, up from $98 billion in 2024, yet research consistently shows that only 10–20% of training...

Is Your L&D Equipped to Support a Healthy Workplace?

Learning and Development (L&D) teams are drowning in activity. Leadership academies, compliance refreshers, microlearning libraries, LMS migrations, another platform, another rollout, another “strategic priority.” Motion is constant and it may be keeping your...

Culture Eats Your Policies for Breakfast

If I see or hear the quote, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast,” by Peter Drucker one more time, I might vomit. Everyone loves this phrase, but I’m convinced no one knows what it even means. If they did, Civility Partners would be out of a job. While I haven’t read...

Navigating a Toxic Workplace: Practical Strategies for Leaders, HR, and Employees

When toxic behavior - such as gossip, harsh sarcasm, incivility, rudeness, public shaming, serial interrupting, microaggressions, and unresolved conflict - is brushed off as personality differences or “not that bad” it normalizes the behavior. As leaders look the...