Choosing to Tackle a Workplace Bully

by Dec 17, 2015

Workplace bullying can have a profound impact on your well-being, job satisfaction, and overall mental health. It’s a pervasive issue that affects individuals across various industries and can manifest in different forms. If you find yourself facing a workplace bully, it’s crucial to take proactive steps to address the situation and regain control of your professional life.

Sometimes there are moments in an employee’s professional life when he or she encounters a workplace bully.  The degree of abusive may vary depending on the situation.  Sometimes workplace bullying can be very subtle, however, there are instances where the negative behavior would be very obvious.

We’ll explore five empowering steps to help you effectively tackle workplace bullying and regain control of your professional life.

 

Recognize the Signs

To address workplace bullying, it’s essential to first recognize the various forms it can take. Bullying behaviors can range from overt aggression to subtle undermining, including verbal abuse, exclusion, or constant criticism. Understanding these signs empowers you to identify when you’re being mistreated and take appropriate action.

 

Document and Validate

 

Keeping a detailed record of bullying incidents is a critical step in addressing the issue. Document dates, times, locations, and individuals involved in each occurrence. This documentation not only provides a clear and objective account of the problem but also serves as valuable evidence if further action is necessary. Additionally, seeking validation from trusted colleagues or friends can help reinforce your understanding of the situation.

 

Seek Support

Facing workplace bullying can be emotionally challenging, making it important to seek support from those you trust. Share your experiences with colleagues, friends, or family members who can provide emotional validation and practical advice. Having a support system in place can give you the strength and confidence needed to address the situation effectively.

 

Confront the Bully Professionally

Confronting the bully is a crucial step in reclaiming control over your professional life. Choose an appropriate time and setting to address the issue directly with the individual. Express your concerns calmly and assertively, focusing on the impact of their behavior on your work and well-being. Emphasize your desire for a respectful resolution rather than placing blame, fostering an environment conducive to positive change.

 

Engage HR or Management

If the bullying persists despite your efforts, it’s time to escalate the matter to human resources or upper management. Present your documented evidence and communicate the steps you’ve taken to address the issue directly. Collaborate with HR to find a resolution that ensures a healthy and respectful work environment for everyone involved. This step is crucial for leveraging organizational support and intervention.

For employees who were bullied at work, standing up against the bully may be a step that a few would loathe to do.   Either they fear retaliation or would rather stay quiet about the workplace bullying.  They may also be hesitant to confront the bully over worries that it may cost them their jobs.  However, there comes a time when bullied employees would opt to quit their jobs in order to remove themselves from the stressful working environment.

Although at the other end of the spectrum are employees who would rather confront the workplace bully over their abusive conduct.  This approach can be very tricky.  Sometimes it yields positive results in which the bully will stop his or her negative behavior.  But, there are also instances in which it may backfire and the employee would experience more bullying at work or be subjected to further humiliation.

What’s key is for the bullied employee to assess the situation and approach a mentor, manager or their HR team about the workplace bullying.  However, there are times when a discussion with the workplace bully is needed.  More often than not, some are not even aware that they’re turning into a bully.

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Catherine

About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, is the founder/CEO of Civility Partners, an organizational development firm focused on helping organizations create respectful workplace cultures and specializing in turning around toxic cultures. Civility Partners’ clients range from Fortune 500’s to small businesses across many industries. Catherine is a TEDx speaker and an HR thought-leader who has appeared in such venues as USA Today, Bloomberg, CNN, NPR, and many other national news outlets as an expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, author and blogger, and has 50+ courses reaching global audiences on LinkedIn Learning. Catherine’s award-winning book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, was hailed by international leadership-guru, Ken Blanchard, as, “the most comprehensive and valuable handbook on the topic.” Her latest book is Navigating Toxic Work Environments For Dummies (Wiley).

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