Workplace Bullying Victims Need Time to Heal

by Sep 24, 2015

Being a target of a bully is never a fun experience.   It often leaves emotional and mental scars on the victims, and sometimes, also results to physical pain.  Overcoming these feelings of humiliation, and at times depression, can be a very challenging journey.    So how and where do you start?

Michele Rosa, a certified chaplain and a former workplace bullying victim, set out to find a way to heal from the hurtful experience.  In a retreat style event that Rosa organized last year which tackled healing from being bullied at work, she identified some strategies which worked for her and the event participants.

During the retreat, the group opted to focus on healing and forgiveness.  They didn’t dwell too much on going through the painful memories of workplace bullying, or dissecting the situation, or even finding a solution to the problem.  What helped was that they were able to tell their stories and express their feelings to someone that they know would understand.  Rosa said that building that connection is an important aspect for a victim to start healing.

Apart from having someone that workplace bullying victims can talk to, it’s also important to learn how to forgive and to let go.  What’s also critical is that the victims should not blame themselves for being in that negative and abusive situation.

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About Catherine Mattice

Catherine Mattice, MA, SPHR, SHRM-SCP is President of consulting and training firm, Civility Partners, and has been successfully providing programs in workplace bullying and building positive workplaces since 2007. Her clients include Fortune 500’s, the military, several universities and hospitals, government agencies, small businesses and nonprofits. She has published in a variety of trade magazines and has appeared several times on NPR, FOX, NBC, and ABC as an expert, as well as in USA Today, Inc Magazine, Huffington Post, Entrepreneur Magazine, and more. Catherine is Past-President of the Association for Talent Development (ATD), San Diego Chapter and teaches at National University. In his book foreword, Ken Blanchard called her book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, “the most comprehensive and valuable handbook on the topic.” She recently released a second book entitled, SEEKING CIVILITY: How Leaders, Managers and HR Can Create a Workplace Free of Bullying.

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